What's Love Got To Do With It

Tina Turner released What's Love Got To Do With It in 1984...

and the entire world felt validated. 

My parents hadn't even contemplated my existence yet, and I felt validated. 

You can be utterly and completely, head over heels in love with someone, but let them make you mad. 

Let them hurt you

And all bets are off. 

I see couples nearly every day of the week, and every single one of them tell me how much they love each other. How much they want to make it work. 

But every single couple I see says the same thing.

Something has to change, or I can't do this anymore

Essentially, I love this person with all my heart, but we can't keep doing this. We can't keep fighting like this.

Or we won't make it. 

Love, honestly, doesn't have much to do with sustaining a committed relationship. 

Is it important? Of course! 

However, hard work, patience, persistence, and understanding will repair your relationship. 

If your relationship is hitting rough waters, and you can't see clear skies, it doesn't mean the love is gone. 

It just means that life happened.

Reality hit you and you are NORMAL!

Do yourself and your relationship a favor. Think back to the first few months of your relationship.

The warm and fuzzy feelings.

Meditate on those memories for a minute. 

Think about what helps you feel connected to one another and plan a date night around that. 

Sidenote: If you think back to the first few months and it's rocky waters... hit me up through the contact link. 

But for real, it's okay that you fight. 

I'm going to say something taboo... it's even "okay" if you or your significant other cheated

I mean clearly it's not okay... but... it doesn't mean you don't love each other! 

It doesn't mean that it's over. 

I'll say it again. Love truly has very little to do with sustaining a committed relationship! 

And if you find you need professional help, well, you're normal. 

And I'm right here. 


Sidenote #2: 

Did any one else notice how shredded Angela Bassett was in the movie What's Love Got To Do With It? I mean... get it girl.